Wednesday, May 14, 2008

My Hunch on Gender

Last week, KCMarie left a comment asking what gender I thought the baby was. I didn't post anything then, since I didn't want to skew the poll results. But now that the big ultrasound is tomorrow, I'll share. Both Jeramy and I feel pretty strongly that we're having a boy. Now I don't buy into any of those old wives tales. Given my background in research and science, anything that is not backed by a randomized control trial is just a myth to me. Admittedly, we are both probably biased in our male inklings, as the males on his side of the family has a history of producing Y chromosomes that goes back a couple generations. The poll results lean slightly towards girl, so perhaps you all are right. I mean we all have a 50/50 chance of being right after all.

Now just because I think its a boy doesn't mean I prefer a boy. Honestly I just want a healthy baby that is either a boy or a girl. I hope I'll be the kind of parent who does not place demands on who my child is to be in life or try to live my failed hopes and dreams through them. And part of that is understanding that gender is something I have no control over. I just hope to God that I do find out the baby's sex tomorrow, because I'm not sure that I can take the "do you want a boy or girl" questions any longer. It is not the question that I'm opposed to necessarily. I think it is the skeptical looks I get for my neutral stance, the propagation of old wives tales and the opinions/preferences of the questioners that are really starting to irk me. What is perhaps even worse are suggestions that we are having twins, even though we've repeatedly told people that four ultrasounds have confirmed that only one being is occupying my uterus (not to mention the scan that showed one mature follicle at ovulation).

So while tomorrow afternoon cannot get here soon enough, it will get here. I only wish that I had a smidgen of an ability to concentrate in the meantime, but it sounds like the ultrasound will not cure that problem anyhow. So I'll leave you with this 20 week belly pic. I'm looking bigger, I think (and I'm referring to my stomach here and not my double chin or thighs).

18 comments:

Poltzie said...

I think you look wonderfully pregnant, you totally have that glow about you!
Good luck tomorrow, be sure to post the results soon :)

Kathy V said...

Look at how cute your belly looks.

I hope spot cooperates for you. I know what you mean aboutt he questions irking you. Ever since I have announced I was pregnant people want to know what it is. When I say it is too early they ask what do we want and are we going to find out. I agree we will take whatever we get and hopefully it is healthy. Cause Frankly even if I had a preference once the baby is here, I am not even going to think about the process of sending it back if we don't end up with the "preferred" choice. There is a one way ticket and it will not be stamped for a return trip!!!!!

Maria said...

OMG, YAY it's tomorrow. Just one more sleep!!

Love the belly pic, you look wonderful.

I'll be praying that Spot cooperates!!

Nicky said...

Only one more day! Yay!

One warning, though -- the unfortunate gender comments don't stop once you know. If it's a boy, people will ask if Jeramy is thrilled, and if it's a girl, they'll ask about you. As if each of you will only be happy with a gender-matched mini-me.

When people tell me that my husband must be excited that it's a boy, I've started telling them, "Yeah, because if I'd failed to provide him with a male heir, I'd have been ceremoniously beheaded, so we're all quite relieved."

Good luck & have fun tomorrow!

Katie said...

You look gorgeous!

And I voted boy, too! But we soon shall see!

Annalien said...

Very nice bump :-)! Hope Baby co-operates tomorrow and give up the "goods". Love you positive attitude.

Kelly said...

Show your goods (or lack of goods) Spot!! Can't wait to hear how the appt goes!
I think you look great pregnant! Very cute baby bump!

Monica Fayth said...

Good luck today! Oh and I voted for boy. I've had strong feelings about other friends having girls and was right, but I really think yours is going to be male. I hope he shows himself (or herself, I guess) today! Oh, and you're going to need to change the title of yoru blog soon ;)

KatieM said...

I think boy too ;-) Not sure why, just because really....I'm really anxious to hear though so I hope spot cooperates!

Jaime and Chris said...

Oh Jen, I am so excited to find out if I am going to be an aunt to a neice or nephew! You must call me when you find out. When I woke up I thought "today is the day!" Whatever it is he/she is growing fast! I just saw you last week and your baby bump has grown.

Jaime and Chris said...

Oh, and I think that spot is a she. At least one of us will be right!

Cece said...

We aren't going to find out! But - I'm sitting here refreashing your site because I'm dying to know what you are having!

Jewels said...

Oh Good Lordie-lord, I thought your U/S was today, and if you have a hunch its a boy, I'll bet your right.
I cant wait! (oh please dont let the baby be modest! -please dont let the baby be modest!please dont let the baby be modest! )

Your so beautiful. Pregnancy looks good on you :)


P.S
I love what Maria said, One more sleep, that's how my son and used to refer to how many days till something was by how many more sleeps until that day.

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Jewels said...

OMG, Can you delete that? I seriously dont know what happened, the computer froze on me, went to some funky screen, then I back tracked, hit send again and whoop-there it is ~ 3 Times. :D

Katie said...

Update, please!!!!! Because I am sure you don't have more important people to tell than us! :)

Barb said...

You are FRIGGEN adorable.